Hey Everyone! It's Amanda, and this is going to be my first advice
topic.
I'll try to do an advice topic every week, so if you have a
request of what you want me to do next, you can contact me at
fashionbelle16@gmail.com. This weeks topic is:
How To Make A Group Of 3 Work.
I see first hand that in groups of 3, it is almost impossible not to
feel dis-included or left out at sometime. In 7th grade, I was in a
group of 3 with 2 other friends, and honestly it just didn't work.
Someone always felt excluded, that's just how it was. The 2 girls that I
was friends with were closer with each other, and I always felt like
they would exclude me, or gossip about me because they were always
together, and I just felt alone, even though I acted like everything was
fine. Now looking back at it, I realize that they were
toxic
friends. They weren't the kind of people I should have been hanging
around. Sometimes, they would purposely try to exclude me or make me
feel left out. I removed those people from my life. It was really hard,
because I thought I would be alone for last 2 months of 7th grade
without them, but I made friends with a great group of girls who cared
about me and included me. Removing those 2 girls from my life was the
best decision I made. If you are in a situation like I was, my best advice is to just remove those friends from your life. You don't have to be
mean about it, you can simply just walk away from it. Now, if you aren't
in a situation like I was, and you just want to make a group of 3 work,
and have everyone included without someone being left out, my best
advice is
be nice. That
may sound dumb, but honestly for every situation, do the best you can
to be nice, and make everyone feel included. If you were going to have a
sleepover or hang out with 1 of the friends in your group of 3, just
invite the other girl too. Even if she can't come, it's the thought that
you invited her. At lunch, instead of just directly talking to one
person, try to look and meet both of their eyes. Even when we sometimes
don't realize it, we say one persons name without really thinking, or
direct a question to them. Instead of saying "Oh my gosh Jenny you won't
believe what happened!" Try to make a conscience effort to say "Oh my
gosh
guys, you won't believe
what happened!" I hope that you guys liked my advice corner. If you
like this, just shoot me and email letting me know your thoughts on this
article, and as always, I'm happy to answer any questions you have!
Xoxo,
Amanda
